An Abuja-based church, Holiness Revival Movement Worldwide, has expelled a newly married woman, Oyiza, from its congregation for allegedly refusing to consummate her marriage with her husband, Isaac.
The couple, who were based in Ibadan, Oyo State, were joined in matrimony on September 6, 2025, after completing their traditional rites in Okene, Kogi State, and a court wedding in Ibadan, Oyo State.
Oyiza is from Kogi State.
However, shortly after the ceremony, the marriage ran into crisis as the bride resisted her husband’s attempts at intimacy, insisting that she did not love him.
She reportedly accused her mother of coercing her into the marriage.
It was gathered that repeated efforts by both families and church leaders to mediate in the matter failed, as the bride allegedly remained adamant.
In a video posted on the church’s YouTube channel in February, the International Director of the movement, Pastor Paul Rika, announced the expulsion of Oyiza after five months of failed mediation.
During the announcement, he described her as a “demon” and declared that she must be punished.
While accusing her of spiritism, he urged members to pray for her “destruction,” alleging that she had brought shame to the assembly.
“So, we have delivered her to Satan. We have expelled, excommunicated her. You want to bring shame, what do you mean that you don’t love Isaac?” he queried.
The cleric referenced cultural practices of earlier times when weeping new brides were compelled to go to their husbands’ homes.
“Even the harlots, do they sleep with those that love them? It’s business. So, how do you say you don’t love Isaac after accepting him, and you say you don’t love? Demon!” he added.
Isaac, the husband, explained that Oyiza consented when he expressed his intention to marry her.
Based on this, the church’s marriage committee gave a nod to proceed with wedding preparations.
He, however, said some months before the ceremony, Oyiza began expressing doubts and indicated that she was no longer interested because she had lost feelings for him.
“(I) thought this could be spiritual and we should pray. The marriage committee also counselled her to go and pray. She returned and said she was convinced and that was how we proceeded,” he added.
According to him, the marriage was formalised after the completion of traditional rites and the court wedding.
In Facebook photos of the couple Oyiza seemed happy while surrounded by some friends and church members.
But Isaac said the situation deteriorated almost immediately after the wedding.
“After the wedding, she started complaining again that she no longer had feelings for me. She had also started misbehaving, but because of the fervent love I had for her, I accommodated her deficiencies and lapses, thinking that things will change.
“After the marriage, in the hotel where we lodged, I touched her, but she said we should wait for a brief period of time. I asked for her reasons; she did not give me any cogent reason. She had also said she did not like sex all the time. I was also a virgin and was not involved in such things. I agreed we won’t make love in the hotel. So, we said when we get to Ibadan.
“We accompanied her, myself and her mother, to the park. She started crying at the park, saying, ‘Mummy, can you see now, when I said I don’t love this man, can you see it now. See the condition you pushed me into now’.”
Isaac said his in-laws pleaded with him to exercise patience and keep the matter private.
When the problem persisted, he said he reported to a church leader in Lokoja before escalating it to his pastor in Ibadan.
He said despite the intervention of his pastor and the wife, who reportedly broke down in tears during one of the counselling sessions, Oyiza remained resolute.
“She would tell me almost every time, ‘No love, no joy, no peace,’” he stated, adding that he became more confused and distressed as he had great love for her.
He further alleged that she accused him of attempted rape whenever he sought intimacy or initiated moves.
“It was a battle. Sometimes, she would just open up herself and say, ‘Do whatever you want to do.’ But I did not also know all these things.”
Isaac said counselling sessions organised by the church, including sexual guidance and support, yielded no positive result.
“It’s not just about sex. Even bathing. She said she loved me to bath at night. I bath virtually all night. But sometimes, if I don’t bath, she would hold my neck, telling me to go and bath. She would force me. Our leaders would intervene, asking her to release herself, but she refused.
“One day, she called some little children into our room to discourage me from touching her. But I ignored the children and continued touching her. A Muslim woman, who is our neighbour, saw us arguing as she was saying, ‘Do you want to rape me?’ She queried her for saying that. But she said, ‘No, I don’t love him. I have told him before. My mother forced me.’”
He described the marriage as suffocating.
“If I came back from work, to sit on the dining table, she would say no. I was not even free until I bathed and changed my clothes. It was a struggle.
“In the kitchen, if she was cooking and I returned home tired, she would ask me to come and join her because I promised to assist her in the kitchen. Everything was like I was in a cage.”
Isaac said he made series of efforts to show love and affection, but claimed that his wife did not reciprocate.
Oyiza was not in church to respond to the claims and allegations levelled against her by Isaac.
Efforts by our correspondent to contact her were also abortive.
Before the decision was announced, the church’s leader, Pastor Rika, said his wife had a revelation.
He said his wife discovered that Oyiza was “a marine girl who is married to a marine demon and they have children together.”
The cleric further stated that “this demon is a harsh type, highly jealous type that will never allow her marry another, and the covenant with the demon is that the day you allow a man enter into you, you will die, or that man will die.”
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