How can my wife deny me sex and now turn around to rest positive for Staphylococcus?
Oh, I was a good man! I admit today. But good men are foolish when it comes to being good to women.
We’ve been married for roughly 11 months now, you know the kind of Christian marriage where you don’t test your products’ output before purchase.
Before marriage, we did the important medical tests like HIV, genotype, blood group, etc.
One thing I observed about my wife is I always have to initiate sex; but 7 of 10 times she denies me sex, before and after marriage. We’ve been together for 3+ years now.
Recently I observed skin breaking in her vaginal area while we were bathing together, so I asked her to do an STD/UTI test. She did the test and the result came out with staph positive.
I was really pissed, because I don’t sleep around. Her response was that she got it from the public toilet… I didn’t even argue. At this point I was just thinking of myself.
I did mine, (swab, urine and blood ) and it came out negative.
All these happened while she was denying me sex as her husband, all because I was being good to her and giving her every attention she needs.
It turns out women don’t value men that are good to them, or who play and offer them attention. This is so because I’m focusing on my friends and giving them more attention than her now, and I’m noticing changes.
Currently I’m not drawn to her emotionally anymore, not because she has UTI, but because she will deny me sex for no reason… and she knows how much I fear adultery.
She’s my wife, when sex comes I take it. If it doesn’t, I have my friends to chill with.
Even if I cheat now, I won’t feel remorse.
Even if I impregnate another woman outside now, I won’t feel guilty.
I want her family to perceive me as a bad person now… maybe this is the kind of man I am, maybe this is the kind of man their daughter has forced me to become… but I won’t be a slave to any woman because of sex.
I know y’all must be asking why I’m sharing this information now… I’m sharing because before marriage, I expected unlimited intimacy, I expected love. And just like some of you reading this my post, you’ll be feeling the same, maybe yours will be different from mine.
Women always want to control situations… she expected a man she could control with sex, not knowing there’s unlimited sex out there, even before I decided to get married.
RESPONSE BY NAIRALANDA1(M)
Okay, oga, time for some lectures
Yes, staph can be spread ‘that way’
But staph can also be spread by
1. Using menstrual products longer than usual
2.Poor hygiene (not just not washing pants, not washing hands before changing menstrual products or cleaning around the vagina).
3.Using dirty towels, pants, etc./Sharing dirty towels (Do both of you share a towel or towels for example)
4.Shaving around the genitals, without adequate hand washing.
My friend, get your woman to see a gynaecologist for advice.
Also, both of you need to go and get counselling. There are issues in your marriage…that you never sorted out. And that should have been sorted out before you got married. This one that you are already accusing her of sleeping around!!
NAIRALAND
